What do you do when one person wants to continue a relationship/marriage and the other does not?

This is the big question I walked away with from our marriage counseling session this past Saturday.

It's a toughie. Especially when there's a sweet 4 year old child involved. It is also painful. Painful to be told that she didn't think she could be happy in our marriage anymore. Ouch!! I guess I'd rather know her true feelings rather than be led along and lied to. Years back my first instinct would be to say, "Man, do I need a drink!!" Today, as crazy as it sounds, I think of going for a walk in the woods or sitting on my cushion for a bit. Growth? Yeah, I guess so. Reading over what I just wrote, it sounds disgustingly Pollyanna’ish, but I'll accept it as a healthier way of dealing with adversity. I see now, that going to a chemical to temporarily alter my mood isn't the most wholesome thing I could do for my overall wellbeing. It may offer a temporary reprieve, but all the same shit will be there once the fog of the artificial high lifts. In fact I'll be faced with even more shit than I had to begin with (the guilt and shame of having lost sobriety).

So, here I am with my crappy feelings. I need to remember that they won't last. And I certainly don't want to wallow in them, there's too much good to do to waist my time like that.